Getting know My Love | Laurensia
Greetings, Dear Readers
Young architect and Restless Spirits,
Her name is Laurensia, She has the same age of me. She went to the same elementary school with me, the same senior high school with me, but we went to different university. She went to university in Jakarta while I went for my bachelor degree in Bandung. Bandung and Jakarta is 2 different cities, has different life style, different climate, but same solstice as the location approximately in same latitude. I had not much time to know her, since that time. 8 years after that, she is a Dentist and I am an Architect.
My life was so fast at that time, “a lonely ranger”, I would say. After I graduated, I worked in Bandung, Singapore, London, while sometime fly to Banjarmasin to help my brother’s business. It had been a wicked time for work alcoholic time with almost 40 design competitions and design built works across South East Asia, Middle East and China. I spent a year in one place and another year in another place.
Getting Know My Love | Laurensia
Looking back, I was born in Surabaya, near the poor slum area where there were crazy people, prostitutes, and the gap between rich and poor. Our family lived on Jalan Dukuh Kupang Timur gang 13 no. 75. I grew up and played in several alleys adjacent to Dolly’s Gang, which signifies the gap between a paradoxical iceberg phenomenon related to the necessities of life and the city’s identity. I met one kid named Hamid every day, and he is a crazy toddler. Every time I pass him, I look at his genuine behavior such as running while showing arm-pit, laughing […]
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When I came back for a holiday to Jakarta, we had dinner several times, until a week before I went back to London. I felt that I wanted to spend time with her as a couple, not a friend anymore. Because my time is limited, only a week before going back to England. I love her because I can see my life in the future with her. I love her because of how she appreciates her family, her friends, her staff, her colleagues. I love her because she has passion and care for her job and spending time with me, […]
London, January 2009 Every time I went home from Overseas, I always send a text to Laurensia, called her. I did that because I like to share things with her. She was an indifferent world to me, and I had been friends since I was ten years old. We were friends because I knew that she had a boyfriend. But in London, I was single, and I did not care about relations, one thing that I am sure that I am pretty lonely. One time I got the reply email from Laurensia that I sent years before. We conversed by […]
I worked under my senior partners in Foster and Partners London, and his name is Gerard Evenden. I never imagined that I was accepted to work in London. At that time, I prepared my portfolio. I sent the portfolio to several studios. Many of them got rejected. I was anxious at that moment because I spent so much time preparing the portfolio. It’s six months in total. I printed 10 Copies in the Geylang area. It’s the place when there is one printing company that can print double-sided paper in outstanding quality. So far, I was proud of the portfolio […]
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2004, Sekolah Menengah Umum Katolik Sang Timur – Jakarta Waktu saya masih belajar di sekolah menengah atas saya memiliki guru les fisika yang sama dengan Laurensia, namanya pak Harry. Saya ingat pada waktu saya suka sekali bermain tenis meja setiap dua minggu satu kali saya menghabiskan waktu untuk pulang lebih sore. Terkadang, saya terlambat mengikuti les tersebut ataupun malah saya absen mengikuti kelas tersebut. Akibatnya Laurensia harus mengikuti tes tersebut selama hampir empat jam. Ia masih terkadang mengingat hal tersebut. Meski demikian, saya tidak terlalu ambil pusing dengan les tersebut asal saya masih bisa bermain tennis meja sampai – sampai […]
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Every time I went home from Overseas, I always send a text to Laurensia, called her. I did that because I like to share things with her. She was an indifferent world to me, and I had been friends since I was ten years old. We were friends because I knew that she had a boyfriend. But in London, I was single, and I did not care about relations, one thing that I am sure that I am pretty lonely. One time I got the reply email from Laurensia that I sent years before.
We conversed by email, and I knew that she was single, she broke up with her boyfriend. We shared life around us, and I knew that she worked so hard. She went to the rural areas in the mountain to practice, serving the government every day. In Indonesia, to obtain a license, a young dentist needs to fulfill the service to the government. It took three years for her to do things like that. It took hours to travel, and the need to change transport several times, from cars, mini can, and motorcycles. Her life was tough, and she was consistent in fulfilling her service to the government.
We conversed by emails and texts several times, noting that when I went back to Jakarta, I wanted to ask her for dinner. I wanted to see her in person. My curiosity grew because She lived in two routines, in the morning, she did service to the government in the rural area, and in the evening, she worked in her dental clinic. She worked so hard, and I can see that I am in love with her hard work. I did my hard work as well as an architect, working overtime and living morning and evening work. I saw her hard work as reflection of my life, how we are different but her story fill my heart.
Moments | with Laurensia before Marriage
Michael kamu, anak muda jaman sekarang, berbisnis, tanpa etika, tanpa nilai … Kalimat ini terlontar dari nada bicara diri ini yang meninggi di suatu malam jam 11 di minggu pertama di bulan agustus tahun ini. Klinik gigi laurensia sedang ada masalah. Ibaratnya… ada seorang tukang mie, ia merintis dari awal, di daerah yang kosong tanpa ada tukang mie sedikitpun. Ia mengurus ijin dengan preman setempat kemudian meracik mie khas buatannya sendiri. Resep diolahnya dari pengalaman bertahun – tahun dengan keringat dan resiko. Setelah beberapa tahun, lapak mie itu menuntut untuk diperbesar ia pun menambah orang dan menambah stok bahan dasar […]
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Finally, my waiting day is over. I can meet my lovely Laurensia. She was in tour to Europe and ended in London. She traveled to Netherland before, before joining the Europe tour. So the plan was, her coming to London and coming back to Netherlands to do her tour. I prepare flower for her, I bought the flower at the battersea road, where I usually eat vietnamese food there. The stall was very beautiful, and so is the flower. My co-workers surprised when I brought the flower to the office. I asked my senior for 1/2 day off, because I […]
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