The Professor and the Mayonaisse Jar

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle,
When 24 hours in a day is not enough,
Remember this story about the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.


This story reminds me to my professor in uni, the aim of the story is really inspiring, let me share again with you. Here we are

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students, if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.  The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.  He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions – Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained. Your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else — The small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.’Take care of the golf balls first —  The things that really matter.Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled.  ‘I’m glad you asked’.
It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’
“and this inspiring story made me start my Mayonaisse Jar”


The Daffodil Principle by Jaroldeen Edwards


“There is a garden in every childhood,
an enchanted place
where colors are brighter, the air softer,
and the morning more fragrant than ever.”
~ Elizabeth Lawrence

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over.” I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead “I will come next Tuesday”, I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren. “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and the children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!” My daughter smiled calmly and said, “We drive in this all the time, Mother.” “Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears, and then I’m heading for home!” I assured her. “But first we’re going to see the daffodils. It’s just a few blocks,” Carolyn said. “I’ll drive. I’m used to this.” “Carolyn,” I said sternly, “Please turn around.” “It’s all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.”

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, “Daffodil Garden .” We got out of the car, each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.


It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers. “Who did this?” I asked Carolyn. “Just one woman,”

Carolyn answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home.” Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking”, was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”

For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time – often just one baby-step at time – and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time.

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world . “It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!” My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. “Start tomorrow,” she said. She was right. It’s so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, “How can I put this to use today?”

Use the Daffodil Principle. S t o p  w a i t i n g …..

Dance like you have all of the time with you, * hold your breath and stay focussed

turkey dance (3)


1-Introduction to Urban Design

The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand, Frank Herbert


This writing is the result of my  experience in urban design studio of University of New South Wales. This section is made in the purpose of sharing urban design and to show clearly what we’ve learn t so far. It  explains urban design in term of ‘what and ‘how, generally it is also about what urban design is, and how to implement urban design. We in UNSW, are taught that we have to know what we are talking about, to be thoughtful urban designer.

Design Learning

“We must think 50 years ahead and design backwards” Raghavendra Rathore



2-What is Urban Design ?

Just definitions either prevent or put an end to a dispute, Nathaniel Emmons
La Ramblas Sketch

Sketch of Las Ramblas by the author for Urban Design Studio of The university of New South Wales

Experiencing Urban Design

What is urban design? I remember the time when I was still an undergraduate student of Institute Technology of Bandung. I knew that if people talked about city, they must talk about urban design. My personal experience began at the time when Professor Mohammad Danisworo was talking about urban design of Jakarta and then first I know it must be something about city, he said that urban design is generally a link between architecture and urban planning. While in the book, Urban Design A typology of Procedures and Products, Professor Jon Lang argued that there was confusion about the definition of what urban design is. Some people called Urban Design a discipline and the he called urban design a process. I was taught by Professor Jon Lang that we should be clear about what we are talking so I’ll start with definitions that came up from time to time.

Urban Design by Lewis Wirth

Lewis Wirth first wrote urban design in his paper ‘Urbanism as a way of life’ in 1938

Urban Design by Alexander Cuthbert

Alexander Cuthbert wrote in his book The form of the cities that

Urban Design is a discipline where, almost without exception, its major’ theorists’ have failed to engage with any substantial origins in the cognate disciples of economics , social and political science, psychology , geography or the humanities’

He later explained that there are papers which called definitions of urban design by Alan Rowley 1994 and one which titled the same by David Gosling’s 1984, Which argue that is urban design a discipline.

Cuthbert stated:

In his paper, Gosling has adopted a wholly architectural perspective, as if only architects had any right to define the discipline. While it may seem unfair to critise this paper, now twenty years old, it remains significant precisely because it represents the most powerful and enduring ideologies still dominating the field of urban design.

Urban Design by Llewellyn-Davies

There was definition from Llewellyn-davies which was:

Urban design draws together many strands of place-making, environmental responsibility, social equity and economic viability; for example – into the creation of places of beauty and identity. Urban design is derived from but transcends related matters such as planning and transportation policy, architectural design, development economics, landscape and engineering. It draws these and other strands together. In summary, urban design is about creating vision and the deploying of the skills and resources to realize that vision (Llewellyn-davies; 2000:12)

Urban Design by Jon Lang

Jon Lang made a clear definition of urban design in his book, he stated almost all definitions of urban design state that it has something to do with the public realm (or the public domain or with public space) and the elements that define it. (Lang, 2005:6)

The broad goal of urban design is to provide opportunities, behavioural and aesthetic, for all the citizens and visitors to a city or one of its precincts. (Lang, 2005:20)


Susan Boyle “the genuine lady”

“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes of you.” – Maya Angelou

Check here “http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnmbJzH93NU”

Susan showed how we can reach our dream that if you wanna do it, you can. I still remember when last time I watched Les Miserables musical performance in London. It was such great performance with love, honesty, and honour. This song is extra ordinary and touched every body.

Her voice is amazing. Her genuinity is the most amazing..

“Les Miserables”
There was a time, when n were kind
And their voices were soft
And their words were inviting
There was a time, when love was blind
And the world was a song
And the song was exciting
There was a time it all went wrong
I dreamed a dream in time gone by
When hope was high and life worth living
I dreamed that love would never die
I dreamed that God would be forgiving
Then I was young and unafraid
And dreams were made and used and wasted
There was no ransom to be paid
No song unsung, no wine untasted
But the tigers come at night
With their voices soft as thunder
As they turn your hope apart
As they turn your dreams to shame
He slept a summer by my side
He filled my dreams with endless wonder
He took my childhood in his stride
But he was gone when autumn came
And still I dream he’d come to me
That we would live the years together
But there are dreams that cannot be
And there are storms we cannot weather
I had a dream my life would be
So different from the hell I’m living
So different now from what it seemed
Now life has killed the dream I dreamed

“ Parametric Modelling “ di dalam arsitektur

Zaha Hadid, Thames Gateway regeneration corridor to the east of Londonzaha_hadid


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