June 11 2009, Sydney

“Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit”- Khalil Gibran

laurensia and me

Do you believe in faith ? Love? Good will? I don’t know if you do, but I really do.

Today is Thursday. The day almost ends today’s  scenario. It’s winter time in the middle of the night. I was wondering about what love might be in people opinion,

how about you? Sometimes I have seen the sincerity between people eyes in between strangers and friends in relationship, how would you determine love?

I will  tell story about my experience of love and sincerity. What makes me grateful today that everyday, I will be trying to live with sincerity and love. Let me be personal in this writing. Everyone has their own story and here is my story.

Her name is Laurensia, She has the same age of me. She went to the same elementary school with me, the same senior high school with me, but we went to different university. She went to university in Jakarta while I went for my bachelor degree in Bandung. Bandung and Jakarta is 2 different cities, has different life style, different climate, but same solstice as the location approximately in same latitude. I had not much time to know her, since that time.  8 years after that, she is a Dentist and I am an Architect.

My life was so fast at that time, “a lonely ranger”, I would say. After I graduated, I worked in Bandung, Singapore, London, while sometime fly to Banjarmasin to help my brother’s business. It had been a wicked time for work alcoholic time with almost 40 design competitions and design built works across south East Asia, Middle East and China. I spent a year in one place and another year in another place.

The one thing that I still remember I really like to have a cup of hot sweet tea and  2 half done eggs just to work until morning. There was no ending story for projects. After office hour, I would take another competition and another competition again because we lived in the same dream as an architect and Urban designer. Like what Jon Lang said “Urban Designer designs”. Time flied pass by, leaving good memories about one place to another place, I did take a picture, be a tourist in the beautiful cities in the world to capture movement, another life, another culture just to survey the world. Cities were so much different than my hometown. Every frame and second was really a good memory. Playing piano is a way respect tranquility of my time despite I didn’t have much time left for myself. Oh I got another thing that is music, a tone that always starts my day with smile in the noise of foot step in London Subway. So what else?

new year's eve010108-New year’s eve’Waterloo Bridge, I remember time passed by really fast, 1 year was like only yesterday,

I am really grateful now. For myself, time is stopping when first time I met her few years ago, realized how fast life was and It should not be like those time. Time should be respected,  Since that I started to remember every moment without matter. If you have so many memories about the past, which one you want to remember? Love is a clue for my life that I have to live life with love. Love can make everything that is wrong to be right and in opposite. If life is a decision so would you dare to take your chance for you love? if you are together with me, raise your hand and we can dance and sing together.

After I met her, Time is back with me, it is just so slow and a moment never be passed, She has an honesty of truth, respectful to people. She gave me confident of creating vision when she said “you can do that, just believe on yourself because I have prayed so”. My tears fall for her in happiness and sadness, my vision broaden, my believe strengthen,

Life just stays the same as before, even I had more projects that I had not expected before. I still had a cup of hot sweet tea and 2 half done eggs just to work until morning. But I worked with love, play with love, and sing with love. A “U”curve is always drawn on my face and, life has changed. If I can end the writing in conclusion, I believe that Love, is just one word, but it is about your life, I think every people need to have this word,

a word to make your time in this world to smile. Don’t lose it. I will not lose mine.


Live a Life That Matters

June 02, 2009, Sydney

” If there is anything I would like to be remembered for it is that I helped people understand that leadership is helping other people grow and succeed. To repeat myself, leadership is not just about you. It’s about them.” – Jack Welch

New York Times bestselling author Mark Albion’s 3-minute animated movie Based on Mark’s book, More Than Money. “The Good Life”

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours, or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.

So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end. It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave. What will matter is not your success, but your significance. What will matter is about what you learned as well as what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.What will matter is not your competence, but your character.What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many felt good when they were around you and how you served them.

What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what. Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.-coach bay

Choose to live a life that matters. – Michael Josephson

This was so old story to be told to. It show a principle how we deal with the most important thing in our life.  Choose one that can make you satisfied, pick that, smile. It is in your heart, Rich.